Hanging on by a thread

So the email/facebook wall post from H's uncle is really getting to me.. Not that fact that he wrongfully accused me of something I would never do... But the fact that DH wont say anything to him about it. The past couple of days Dh and I haven't really talked to each other. Last night I finally gave in and all he could say is.. "you're a big girl you can handle things on your own" No I can't when it comes to his family no he needs to step up and defend his WIFE and FAMILY! I told him I'm about done and I can't take much more.. If he can't take up for ME,US OR OUR FAMILY then there is no reason for us to be together. In May we will be together for 6 years, in July married for 5 years. Isn't it about time he starts taking up for us? I guess not and I'm not sticking around much longer if he can't. I'm not "allowed" to say anything to his family when it comes to defending myself. But he has no problem stepping up and saying something to my family. I know better then to even try and defend myself with his family because I'm nothing but a "liar" and looking for drama. I'm just tired, wore out and sick of being treated like crap. I mom has done it for 36 years but I am NOT my mother. I can't take it and I wont take it. I love DH I really do but the more he lets his family do this to me.. The love is slowly fading away. I don't want to leave the life I have because I love every minute of it.. But I won't stick around and let him let his family run me over. No matter how much I try and "cut the ties" between them and us.. They are STILL my husbands family and in his eyes they are perfect and can do no wrong. Even though he has seen first hand what his family does.. They are still perfect in every single way. I would hate to leave him because of his family... But when is it enough? I can't take the stress of his family and him sitting back and doing nothing. Even when I try and say something back he sides with them saying I'm in the wrong and I should just shut up and leave it alone.

So its ok to be call a bad mother? A low life? My husband and kids deserve better then me? Its not ok I KNOW I'm a great mother to my children.. My try to be the best wife I can be to DH.. And the reason I'm failing at that is because of his family. But I'm not a failure I have WONDERFUL accomplishments in my life. I have 4 wonderful kids who (to me) are the best.. I have a 3.5 year old who is super smart. She can count to 10 in English and Spanish. She knows Spanish and Chinese and speaks them fluently. His family doesn't affect me when it comes to my kids..I take DAMN GOOD care of my children. They affect me when it comes to my marriage. But DH doesn't see it and I hope he does before its to late.

I was praying for a "smooth" deployment but with less then 10 weeks away... I don't know what to think about it. All I can do it make it work to the best of my ability and make things as smooth as possible. But I am only 1 person I can only do so much.